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Start Your Next Monthly Meeting Listing Positive Things First

From the Field of Positive Psychology — Researchers have discovered that groups are more productive if they focus on the good things already happening, a process some call Appreciative Inquiry. Doug Turner tells us what happened when he opened his monthly leadership meeting by asking for a discussion of what was going right, instead of the usual litany of what was going wrong. The benefits were amazing. “The tone of the rest of the meeting changed completely,” and researchers know why…

I am the voluntary leader of a religious congregation of over 400 members. Like many churches, we have various organizations to meet the needs of our membership, like groups for the young men, the young women, children, single adults, the unemployed, and a Boy Scout Troop. Every other month or so, I invite the leadership of these groups to my office for a stewardship report and update.

Early on, I noticed that the leadership teams came prepared to discuss the things they were struggling with and the things that were going wrong. “Our last activity was a disaster,” or “the attendance at our last meeting was disappointing,” or “we don’t have the volunteers we need to run our program,” were common reports.

If I were to take these reports at face value, I would have to conclude that our congregation was really struggling. However, as I interviewed individual members of our congregation, I heard stories of hope, gratitude, and faith. These stories came from people who were benefiting from the fine work the leadership teams were doing. Something was off.

When the next round of stewardship meetings came up on the calendar I decided to try something a little different. At the beginning of each meeting, I thanked each leadership team for their work and asked them to share three things that they were proud of and that were working well. The reactions and responses were very interesting. Some were absolutely stumped. It was as if they had been so focused on fixing problems that they missed all the wonderful things happening in their organizations. Some thought it was a little odd to talk about the positive things assuming that everyone already knew the good stuff. Others were almost relieved to finally have a forum to share the things they were doing that brought them so much satisfaction.

The Tone of the Meeting Changed Completely

I noticed that by beginning each meeting with the positive, the tone of the rest of the meeting changed completely. Instead of feeling like we were digging out of a hole, we felt like we were on top of a mountain surveying a beautiful landscape. Of course we still discussed the struggles and the challenges, but this discussion came from a much more optimistic and hopeful context and the ideas flowed freely.

Barbara Frederickson and Marcial Losada, both noted researchers in Positive Psychology, have studied this phenomenon. They observed the contrast between flourishing and languishing. Frederickson’s “broaden-and-build theory holds that unlike negative emotions, which narrow people’s behavioral urges toward specific actions that were life-preserving, positive emotions widen the array of thoughts and actions called forth (e.g., play, explore), facilitating generativity and behavioral flexibility.”

(Editor’s translation: People thought more creatively and productively, and danced outside the box!)

They also observed that “high ratios of positive to negative affect (emotion) would distinguish individuals [and teams] who flourish from those who [languish]. Several recent research reviews have concurred that ‘bad is stronger than good.’ The implication is that to overcome the toxicity of negative affect and to promote flourishing, experiences of positivity may need to outnumber experiences of negativity.”

That’s what was happening to the leadership of our church organizations — the toxicity of the negative was overpowering the positive. By simply focusing on the positive first, we began to push back the negative tide.

Making the Good As Strong As the Bad

Losada calculated that the “tipping point” ratio of positive to negative is 2.9013. This means that it takes 2.9 positive feelings, experiences, expressions, thoughts, etc. to fend off the languishing effects of one negative. This 2.9 tipping point is call the Losada Line. His calculations demonstrated the tenets of Frederickson’s broaden-and-build theory. “As predicted by the theory, higher levels of positivity [beyond 2.9 positives to 1 negative] are linked with (a) broader behavioral repertoires, (b) greater flexibility and resilience to adversity, (c) more social resources, and (d) optimal functioning.”

In addition to all this research and science, it’s just more fun to celebrate the positive and the successes. Recognizing what’s working well also recognizes where there is strength. Leaders can then leverage this strength to “broaden and build” their organizations in other areas. I have also noticed that the leaders who continue to languish are still focused on the negative while the leaders who are flourishing — and happy — leverage the positive and keep the negative in perspective.

My “broad-and-build” questions include the following:

Relative to your leadership role…

  • What’s working well?
  • What brings you great pride and joy?
  • How have you made a difference for good in the lives of those you serve?
  • What brings you quiet satisfaction?
  • What have you learned over the last few months?
  • How can you use this information (above) to move your organization forward?

In the words of an ancient prophet, “…behold I say unto you, that by small and simple things are great things brought to pass…” I hope this helps you to flourish in your leadership roles and to bring to pass great things.
Douglas B. Turner is the Vice President of Human Resources for the Washington, D.C., Metro Division of Centex Construction, LLC. Mr. Turner oversees all aspects of human resources, including leadership, management, employee training and development, team development, employee recruitment and retention, employee relations, and compliance.

Enthusiasm is the Key to Happiness

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In Harry Tucker’s final essay on GRATITUDE, he suggests that you remember the E in gratitude as representing enthusiasm — enthusiasm for every experience, for every opportunity to share, for every opportunity to learn:

“If you observe successful people, one of the things you will notice is their infectious enthusiasm for everything. Every problem is a challenge to be solved, with a reward to be reaped…”

Successful people constantly share ideas and opportunities with others. Nothing stops them. They follow the old adage that failure only occurs when you refuse to get up after having been knocked down.

When you are enthusiastic about life, opportunities open as if by magic. The more you appreciate Life, the more Life rewards you. The more you appreciate and are grateful for what you have, the more Life offers you. If you want a great example of this, follow the model of the “globetrotting grannies” from Newfoundland. These two “young” ladies are young-at-heart and they are proof that when you set your mind to something with enthusiasm, Life rewards you with rich, wonderful experiences. Each of them is in her 70’s and every year, they travel together to a distant and exotic place — Antarctica included!

An exercise I like to do that makes the intellectual idea of having gratitude for everything really come alive is a nightly review of what I am grateful for. Every night before I go to bed, I think about the things that happened that day that I was really grateful for, memories that came to mind that I am grateful for or lessons learned. I write these down on an index card that has the date of the week on it. At the end of the week, I file that card and start a fresh one. As you start to accumulate these cards, you are reminded of how many things that exist that you are truly grateful for. It has a snowball effect: the more you become aware of things to be grateful for, the more grateful you become. People who lose sight of what they have to be grateful for tend to overlook opportunities for gratitude all around them.

My partner and I also perform a similar exercise every autumn. We buy some of those fabric, yellow or red leaves, and we write on each one, something we are thankful for. Every year, we joke that there won’t be enough room to contain everything we appreciate. We arrange these leaves on a wreath and hang it in a place of prominence in the house and leave it there for about a month. It always draws people into interesting conversations when they see it. When we take the wreath down, we put the leaves in a dated envelope and keep them. It will be interesting to review those leaves in the future or to leave them to our kids as a reflection on what was important to us at the time.

A Gratitude Reminder Card for You!

I printed a small card that I would like to offer each of you today that you can use as a bookmark, or carry in your wallet as a reminder of the benefits of gratitude. On one side are listed the terms that I associate with gratitude. On the other side, I outlined five ways of staying happy. (For those, I would like to thank Shirley Hong, a person who lives a very positive life and who provided these to me.)

Appearing on the card is a butterfly. The reason I chose a butterfly was to remind us of the butterfly effect. The butterfly effect states that the flapping of a butterfly’s wings in the eastern hemisphere of our Earth is amplified through various natural events to eventually become a hurricane in the other hemisphere of our Earth.

Just as this is the case, I would suggest that a positive act or an act reflecting your gratitude for life is amplified as it is passed from one person to another. So when you perform a good act for someone else, they in turn, empowered by the positive energy, will perform one or more positive acts for others, who in turn will do the same. So the butterfly reminds us about the power of a single act of gratitude.

Also illustrating the card is an image of a water droplet hitting the surface of a pool and spreading in all directions. In a similar vein to the butterfly effect, every positive action that we perform, every positive thought that we have, every act of gratitude that we show, spreads good, positive energy equally in all directions. Others who experience this will in turn perform their own acts that will cause positive energy to radiate from them. There is no limit to how far this positive energy will expand.

I wrote earlier that time is one of the most valuable gifts that can be given to someone. You have given me your time and for that I am extremely grateful. If you would like me to send some free Gratitude Cards, just write to me and I’d be glad to pop them in the mail.

I would like to close this series on Gratitude with some beautiful words from a wise but anonymous person who shared their thoughts over the internet.

Be Thankful Now

Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire,
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know something
For it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times
During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations
Because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge
Because it will build strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes
They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you’re tired and weary
Because it means you’ve made a difference.

It is easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are
also thankful for the setbacks.

GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive. Find a way to be thankful for your troubles and they can become your blessings.

Take care and be well, Harry
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Note From the Editor

Thanks to Harry for sharing his wisdom here at the Good News Network. For free Gratitude Cards, just write to Harry and he will gladly send them. Click on Harry‘s name to read previous gratitude essays.

‘Amphibian Ark’ Planned to Save Frogs

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Zoos and aquariums from around the world are being rallied to collect frog species to build a virtual Amphibian’s Ark of preservation against an epidemic of frog-felling fungus that threatens thousands of species from the American Rocky Mountains to the rice paddies of Japan. The stopgap measure will cost more than $400 million, funds which the Amphibian Ark project will set out to raise. No information on how you can help yet. This portal serves with research links: AmphibianArk.org

Where the US is Making Gains Against Terrorism

U.S. Navy helps build better future for Jolo Island

U.S. Navy helps build better future for Jolo Island"Unless you solve the underlying root problems (of terrorism) like poverty and corruption, you’ve still got a witch’s brew to create another generation of fanatics," says Scott Harrison, a security consultant and a former CIA officer… That’s why, in poor villages in the Philippines, the Pentagon is investing in "targeted projects — a new well, a school classroom, and a $200 tin-roofed communal outhouse, or "comfort room," tucked behind the village market." Gaining the trust of residents here, once considered the second most-important front on terrorism, behind Afghanistan, means this Muslim community is being swayed…

Zoo Hires Feng Shui Expert to Aid Monkeys

The Los Angeles Zoo paid $4,500 to an expert in the ancient Chinese art of feng shui to ensure three endangered golden monkeys on loan from China can have a strong life force. "We just have to assume that Darwin is correct and that there is a connection and what is good for humans is good for monkeys." (Associated Press)

The Muslims I Know …

İstiklal Avenue, Istanbul, a busy pedestrian street in Turkey - courtesy of www.wowturkey.com who owns copyright

İstiklal Avenue, Istanbul, a busy pedestrian street in Turkey - courtesy of www.wowturkey.com who owns copyright I am concerned. When I turn on my television and see Muslims, I feel scared. I see acts of violence. I hear rants of anger and hate. I see threats and tempers boiling. Muslims do not have a peaceful face on my American TV. They do not appear to be happy people.

I do not doubt these images are real. Several parts of the Muslim world are experiencing unimaginable suffering from war, death, poor human rights and fear from social insecurity. What I know, however, is that these images of anger and hate are not universal traits across the Muslim world. I know this because I recently returned from Muslim lands and I experienced quite the opposite…

NZ Aims to be World’s First Carbon Neutral Nation

New Zealand’s new prime minister today set the ambitious goal of becoming the greenest country in the world, the first to offset all greenhouse gas emissions with sustainable alternatives. (West Australian)

Buy (RED) on Valentines Day and Help Eliminate AIDS in Africa

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bono-oprahGood news from Bono’s effort to brand red products and funnel a portion of their sales to helping eliminate AIDS in Africa. Motorola and Sprint have announced a milestone in contributions from sales of its Product (RED) multimedia phone. Proceeds from the (RED)-designed phone, since its launch in early November, will cover the annual cost of AIDS anti-retroviral treatment for more than 12,000 people in Africa.

(RED) was founded by Bono and Bobby Shriver last year to raise awareness for the fight against AIDS in Africa, and money for The Global Fund, which invests in African AIDS programs with an emphasis on the health of women and children…

Skydiving Miracle: Man Falls Two Miles and Survives

A man fell two miles while skydiving in New Zealand after his parachutes failed to open. The expert jumper landed in a blackberry bush and survived. (MSNBC)

G is for Good News Weekly E-Newsletter

Editor’s Blog
 GNN-i logo of sorts Did you ever wonder where the Top Ten Good News of the Week had gone? The Top Ten list — the best of GNN-i — appeared here on the Web site every week from May 2006 through November (you can find them in the Archives now, all 24 weeks’ worth). Since then, I have continued producing them, but only through my newsletter, which is sent via e-mail once a week. If you want to get on the mailing list, sign up here for the NEWSLETTER. You only need an e-mail (if you also tell us your name, I can include a friendly, "Dear Jake," or whatever, at the top) … People love my "best-of" list sent straight to their Inbox every week. Join the fun! (New issue coming out tonight.)

Organic Clothes Not Just for Hippies Now

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yoga topBuying organic is becoming a global phenomenon and because "it takes a third of a pound of pesticides to produce one cotton T-shirt," organic cottonicon is becoming a sensible choice for consumers — and the big clothing chains that follow their lead. Target, H&M, Nike, Wal-Mart, and now, Victoria’s Secret are all jumping on the organic cotton bandwagon … (right, organic "Double V Yoga Top" by Gaiam, $15.99)

Nations Reach Tentative Deal on North Korea Weapons

“Negotiators from six countries reached a tentative agreement about initial steps for North Korea’s nuclear disarmament, the first concrete steps achieved in nearly three years of negotiations.” (NewsHour on PBS)

Year after paralyzing injury, player strides back to Cornell

College athlete, Khaliq Gant, never gave up after his collision on a basketball court left him paralyzed. He’s become an inspiring example of recovery: “There’s no wheelchair. No cane. Not even a distinguishable limp.” (Ithaca Journal)

Cinema With Soul: DVD Club Features Only Inspiring Movies

Have you heard about the mysteriously titled documentary, The Secret? It was featured on Oprah this week and on a Larry King episode promoted as, “How to attract more money, a new career, and a better love life into your experience today”. Have you been awaiting the film release of Conversations With God? Have you ever attended inspirational film screenings at a local church in order to see titles like, What the (Bleep) Do We Know? If “inspirational” is one of your favorite film genres, and you’re bored with the choices offered by Netflix, then a welcome alternative may be the Spiritual Cinema Circle…

‘The Secret’
A compelling and life-changing film featured on The Oprah Winfrey Show!

Discover The Secret that transformed the lives of every person who ever knew it — Plato, Newton, Carnegie, Beethoven, Shakespeare, Einstein.
Buy It On DVD icon ______________________________________________

This DVD-of-the-month club was launched in the spring of 2004 by Stephan Simon, the Hollywood producer of Somewhere In Time (Christopher Reeve and Christopher Plummer) and the made-in-heaven Robin Williams movie, What Dreams May Come.

For $21.00 per month plus shipping Spiritual Cinema Circle members get four or more films on DVDs to keep – no returns necessary. One is a feature film, and the others are short films.

Simon maintains that at the core of all these films are fundamental questions about our lives: What is most important? Where are we going? Why are we here?

A fine example is the 15 minute selection from January’s collection, The Danish Poet. Charming with its whimsical animation and simple characters, and narrated by Liv Ullman, this short film answers the question: Where would I be now if certain steps I’d taken had been withheld, or certain decisions that once seemed inconsequential, had been decided differently? Retracing the simple steps of a Danish poet teaches us that all the coincidental details of our life intermingled with others’ lives have delivered us to the special place we each now reside.

The tantalizing question brought up by the feature film, Illusion, the Circle’s feature pick for May, 2007, is, “What if I could do this life over? Illusion features 88 year-old Kirk Douglas as a once-famous film director alone and remorseful in his final days. The character is visited by a ghost image of his late friend who shows him the effect of his neglectful parenting on his son’s life.

Simon says, “The purpose of spiritual cimena is to make us feel better about being human.” His selections also seem to help us feel more hopeful about our potential to build worthwhile lives.

Start an Inspirational Film Discussion Group

The monthly mailings lend themselves perfectly to the formation of film discussion groups, especially because the Spiritual Cinema Circle already provides the discussion questions. 2-3 questions per film are included, both on a 3-color insert inside the cases, and right on the DVDs themselves. Additionally, preceding each of the films is a brief introduction by the group’s co-founder, Simon.

Maybe, the world’s largest spiritual film discussion group is the company’s annual Film Festival-at-Sea held on a cruise ship. This month’s festival will set sail on March 31-April 7.

Simon and his Spiritual Cinema collegues have recently produced their first film. It is their February 2007 featured selection, Conversations With God, based on the best-selling non-fiction book by Neale Donald Walsch.

Just a few years before he wrote his first book, Neale Donald Walsch was homeless with a broken neck. He certainly had no intention of writing 22 books, or becoming the New York Times best-selling author of “Conversations with God”. In desperate need of help, he was only crying out to God.

The Spiritual Cinema Circle calls itself “America’s fastest growing DVD Club” and delivers to members in 70 countries. They are eager for new members, though, using free trials and bonus disks (not to mention cruises) to garner attention.

For instance, new members signing up this month will receive Conversations With God, along with a welcome gift — a bonus DVD called Soulmates, containing “6 short films about the magic of relationships”. They’ll give you a trial membership if you wait and sign up in March or April — a month’s DVDs for free, not including a shipping fee of five bucks.

Here’s a more detailed sampling of films and documentaries the circle has featured since its inception:

  • Ram Dass: Fierce Grace, about the former Harvard professor-turned-spiritual guru and inspirational author
  • Farther Than The Eye Can See, about the blind man, Erik Weihenmayer, who scaled Mount Everest
  • Stuck, a short about people trapped in an elevator who share their life stories
  • The Yogis of Tibet documentary expands our concept of meditation
  • Ryan’s Well, about an elementary school child who raises money to dig a well that provides water to an entire village in Africa and spawns a heavyweight charity
  • The Secret, a documentary that assembles best selling authors, coaches and philosophers including Jack Canfield, Bob Proctor, John Gray, and Dr. Joe Vitale to explain The meta-physical Law of Attraction and its application in various areas of life, from health and wealth to career and relationships.

www.spiritualcinemacircle.com

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Heroic Rescue From Helicopter in Battle

"Four Royal Marines flew into a battle zone clinging to the outside of helicopter gunships in a bid to rescue a fallen comrade. Unwilling to leave behind one of their own following a retreat, the commandos strapped themselves to the small stabiliser wings of two Apache helicopters and returned into the midst of a fierce gunfight with the Taliban in southern Afghanistan." (story and photos Daily Telegraph)

Rare Vultures Discovered in East Asia

AP reports, researchers in Cambodia have discovered the only known colony of extemely rare slender-billed vultures. “Amazingly, there were also a host of other globally threatened species of birds and primates,” said Song Chansocheat, manager of the Cambodia Vulture Conservation Project. (story and AP photo of juvenile birds)

Take Our Poll: The Best Call Times for Interactive Tele-conferences

I added a poll in the right column! –> It asks which day and time you would prefer, if you were interested in participating in an interactive teleconference with GNN-i….
The first teleconference, to be held later in February, will feature special guest, Harry Tucker, a businessman and gratitude expert from Canada. Harry and I will host a call during which we will help you to find gratitude in situations where none seems to be merited: Finding the Good News in your life despite the conditions! (Take the poll, or click to read more)

Once-Endangered Sturgeon Rebounding in Hudson River

sturgeonShortnose sturgeon have made a surprise recovery in New York City’s Hudson River, a new study shows. More than 60,000 occupy the river, greater by about four times than the number in 1970. The sturgeon comeback has been "so successful" that it may become one of the few species resurrected from the U.S. endangered species list — "becoming the first fish to do so." (Nat’l Geographic News)

Cab Driver Returns Wallet and $5,950

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The more we hear about honest cab drivers, like the one earlier this week in New York, the more it makes each of us in turn want to live with integrity. Another immigrant cabbie this week became a hero. In Seattle, Vinod Mago rushed back to the airport so he could return to its rightful owner, a wallet stuffed with almost $6,000 in cash. He, too, was rewarded with $100 (and presumably the inner fireworks that light in our chest when being kind to strangers)… (AP)

$25 Million Prize for Greenhouse Gas Removal

Money may not be able to buy you happiness but offering a large enough cash reward to anyone who can find a way to remove greenhouse gases from the atmosphere could be the answer to solving the problem of catastrophic climate change. Virgin’s Richard Branson is ready to hand over $25 million to anyone who can do just that. "For $25 million, people will do extraordinary things." The New Scientist has the announcement from London…