This divorce lawyer may have lost a potential customer by saving a marriage – but he still has no regrets.
Rafael Gonçalves, a lawyer from the small Brazilian town of Sao Sebastiao do Paraiso, became famous on social media for salvaging a marriage by asking four simple questions. He first met the couple when they went to his office and started explaining their reasons to file for a divorce. Gonçalves noticed, however, that they seemed to still like each other.
1. Did I do everything I could to save this marriage?
2. Is a divorce really the best option today?
3. Who is influencing my decisions?
4. How many problems did you overcome together and how you met?
A few days later, the couple returned to the office saying that they decided not to move forward with the divorce.
“I don’t think I did anything special and, in my opinion, all my colleagues should act the same,” Gonçalves told the Good News Network. “Nobody starts dating planning to break up, and nobody marries planning a divorce. We live in a society that trade or throw something away instead of fixing it, and this is sadly applying to relationships, too.”
The couple decided to take a picture of the piece of paper and share it on social media with the hopes that it would help other marriages. At the same time, Gonçalves doesn’t consider himself special for his actions.
“Sometimes all it takes for a marriage to work is to find someone to pause a moment of conflict and allow them the opportunity to adjust,” he added. “Truth be told, I still get requests of people needing help in their relationships and people letting me know that their lawyers started using the same questions.”
Since the photo of the note went viral, Gonçalves has started a social media group for women to discuss their problems.
“I also have two secret groups on Facebook with almost half a million woman (I am the only guy in the group), and everything they post is classified,” he told GNN. “This way, I’ve created an opportunity for dialogue – they talk about problems in relationships, sometimes abuse, ask for suggestions, law and medical advice, etc. It’s a real virtual city only for women.”
Gonçalves also plans on publishing a book in the coming year.
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